Mr Write

Have you ever wondered how your exasperating, commitment-phobic, dreadfully frustrating ex-boyfriend turns into a man that somebody else decides to marry?

What?

Have you then reviewed the insurmountable differences you had with that boyfriend, and wondered what happened? Is the new partner better able to rebuke those behaviours? Were the things that annoyed you just fine by the new partner? Or did they simply have lower standards?

Here’s the thing. We’re all unique. What we’re looking for, what we value, how we communicate, what brings us joy, all different.

This sounds insurmountable. If we’re all different, how do I find someone who suits me?

But therein lies the gift. There doesn’t need to be a million good partners available, there just needs to be one that suits you.

At this point, it’s important to be specific. What do you want in a partner?

Now it’s time to write a list. Think about what you like in your friends, in people you get along with. In people you admire. Why do you like / admire them? Write their favourable characteristics down, and then collate them into a list that should tell you who you’re looking for.

Knowing what you want in a partner makes your brain alert to finding the right one.